When It's Not Love, Choose to Feel Dislike Over Hate

 “Fortunately, the requirement to love others is not a mandate to like them. Love is a choice to act in loving ways, regardless of whether we actually feel loving toward a person at any given time.”

~ A Woman’s Daily Prayer Book

Reference to 1 John 4:7

This message brings comfort to me as I hope it does for you because it proves that it is possible to love someone you dislike. This can be done on a human level. Using a little wordsmithing here...while it is not okay to hate someone which can lead to violence, it is okay to have a strong dislike for them which can reach more towards the opposite way of the spectrum - to forgiveness. But we must love each other. Within how we work culturally within our society, it is safe to say that when one does not like what someone does, it is much easier to forget and let it go. But when one introduces the word hate, everything turns serious with the other person making it much harder for either one to let go of that word and follow up to it with damage. 

When you tell a friend that you hate something that someone else said, does your friend reply with, “Oh, it’s nothing, let it go,”? Or do they reply with, “I hate that too, we should never hang out with them again”? Most of the time it's the second option that is the default answer.

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If you think about it, there’s usually an action word that comes after the hate. While it can be used for good as a motivator, it is also used as a way to hurt other people. So I’m enlightening you today with the good news that there is a safer and less destructive way to feel about someone you do not like. We can use a better substitute word to express our emotions just like how we teach our children about this same topic. We can dislike a little bit or a lot. But let’s try not to use the word hate and keep the love going.

I really believe that if there are more people doing this simple practice, there will be extra room for positivity to replace all of the hate circulating in our world today. Join me in making a better change on how we communicate with each other because it is some HARD WORK!

Let's Act Better.

Let's Be Better.

Pass this along to a friend.

Don’t forget! No matter what, you can always shine on.

Love

 

When it comes to what seems to be the unstoppable force called love, there are still many people who have not experienced it yet and those are skeptical about it even though it has been seen that other people have it. So a common question comes up...

Can a person live a life without love?

The short answer is no.

Because love is…

• time as sometimes it can be at first sight or flourish from a beautiful partnership between what would turn out to be soulmates.
• warmth in feeling and being wholesome to others and one’s self or warmth that is as fulfilling on a cold night and sunny day.
• awkward as you’ll laugh through embarrassing moments.
• inspiration for things you thought you could never do.
• healing of the heart, the bones, of many things.
• motivation to push through anything.
• courageous for each person as it can be a great risk.
• being respectful to each other and especially yourself.
• surprising as it comes when least expected.

Lastly,

• love is fine and kind.

There’s no love greater than an intimate one and that can either be romantic or platonic. Much more passion comes with romantic relations, which intensifies the love, so it naturally feels greater than anything else. This shows that romance is not overrated. But those lucky enough to have a maternal bond, know that it's unbreakable from the beginning of your life to the end. This may be different, but it is still a kind of love.

People put forth much effort just to have the experience of having a loved one in any way, especially romantically. El amor is the most sought-after affection whenever the person is ready for it or...not. This has nothing to do with whether someone is comfortable or prefers being single or not.

Love will come knocking at some point in all of our lives. And if it follows through with all that’s mentioned above, then you’ll know what love is and will want it for as long as you can grasp onto it without feeling afraid of getting heartbroken.

Keep in mind to love with all your might even during the hardest of times.

Say those three words,

"I love you."

You'll find it rewarding and

our humanity also depends on it.

Don’t forget! No matter what, you can always shine on.

Family Reunification Task Force

 

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I wrote a poem inspired by President Joe Biden's action in what I hope is being done and what I think the families are feeling throughout this transition.

The waiting has stopped

for families locked up.

Feelings of incompleteness

with lots of loneliness

slowly reaching to a halt

workers try to locate all.

Trashed aluminum blankets

no more sitting in cages.

Children happily crying

Reunion celebrating.

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Don’t forget! No matter what, you can always shine on.

Create More Connections

 

It is so easy to block another person for whatever the reason may be.

Could you dare to do the impossible and create a bridge with someone you've been in a quarrel with for many years?

It is quite a challenge, but when it works out...

oh the wonderful possibilities!

~Andrelyn Izquierdo

Don’t forget! No matter what, you can always shine on.

Accepting a Pandemic

(Image by FelixMittermeier from Pixabay)

 When life goes in an awry direction after a Pandemic hits, it would be wise to accept it in this situation as a virus and disease is considered a natural cause. To fight it, would be to fight the unstoppable force. One just does not mess with Mother Nature. 

Needn't to worry...

The storms will quiet, the snow will melt, the rain will dry, and the clouds will make room for the sun to shine.

Hope everyone is safe and has a great day!

Do your part in not spreading COVID-19.

~Andrelyn Izquierdo

Don’t forget! No matter what, you can always shine on.

Miracle

 A miracle is something that appears out of nowhere. 

An astonishing surprise that has been left wanting for a long time. 

It comes when you least expect it and when it arrives, it seems timeless. 

A glow that has come to answer all of your prayers.

Keeps you satisfied until it's time is up.

Then the cycle starts all over again.

Some are fortunate enough to receive it more than once.

Others not so lucky to have seen it at all yet.

What's a miracle to you?

Do you believe in them?

Have you had one?

Don’t forget! No matter what, you can always shine on.

Black Lives Matter....Too!

As more horrific events arise to the surface to be seen of those using excessive force on people who are just trying to exercise their First Amendment Right, it is still unbelievable how blind the audience really is. This includes people of all races, not just one. There are actual comments being made to excuse so many circumstances of police brutality, racial slurs tossed to anyone who passes by, and fighting to happen everywhere. It seems like the people choosing to abuse their power are not even putting forth much effort to really hide it anymore, except for those who are still in Government covering their actions up with lies and diversions.

It is real! People are proud to say to any black person of any age that they should still be slaves. What year are we in again? That's right, it's 2020 and yet history is still repeating itself with the same words and same actions violating Human Rights and enforcing inequality. Take the anti-protestors of the Black Lives Matter Movement instigating by using their racism to episodes of Law Enforcement abusing protestors without saying a single word to examine them before they are about to assault any of them. 

Aside from that, there's still the other acts such as spitting, denial of Black's point of view, and false accusations that have already been going on for years. It is happening and by defending their actions, those people are enabling them to still act racist and therefore are included as being racist themselves.

All people are included in the Black Lives Matter label when it comes to equality. It just emphasizes that they still need it to because they don't have it. No, not all of them do as well as other colored people too. With me being Hispanic, I am one of those to be included as well. 

When people say, "White Lives Matter," they are promoting a White Supremacist (organization of racist white people) quote that was intended to be racist, to be unfair only to the Black People at the time. So stating this quote today supports that even if you are not aware. It is been cast on several news outlets, social media, and conferences. On this day, there is no excuse for still using this quote unless you are displaying yourself as a White Supremacist and/or supporter of theirs.

We are still fighting for the same thing that is still not being practiced even though there are laws restricting this irrational and harmful behavior. People are dying!

Black...

Lives

Emotions

Dreams

Goals

Wants

Necessities

Experiences

Thoughts

MATTER!!!

They are people too, just like the rest of us. They should not be treated as property, with disrespect, and inhumanely.

Ask yourself this question...

Would you want to be treated that way too? 

If not, then stop doing it.

If not, then start doing better.

If not, then fight against it.

If not, then do not enable those who are doing it.

If no, be sure that they know it's wrong!

Talking can save someone's life even if you do not know it.

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Don't forget! No matter what, you can always shine on.